If I write more I write more

I’ll admit that it took me few months getting comfortable with the notion of starting a blog. People have plenty of stuff to read already, I thought.

Hurling myself into cyberspace, how important was it to carefully edit my blog posts, to get them exactly right? My friend Julie, a social media aficionado, encouraged me to just “do it.”

Brook used to tell me to stop with all the writing-group exercises, although my 15+-year Maine writing group was more about camaraderie with close women pals. “Just write, you know how to do it, mom,” she’d say, adding — to my heart’s delight — “you’re a a zingy writer” or something like that.

At the time I probably still owned Oz Books and was creating store newsletters, reviewing children’s books for professional magazines, writing a monthly “Branching Out” column for AppleSeeds children’s magazine. So I had to be zingy.

Writers write. Indeed. Now that I make my living (such as it is) writing three or four articles in every issue of the biweekly Arizona Jewish Post, I am a writer.

I dream of writing a memoir. Whenever I see her, my author niece Amy says I should write my memoir because she wants to read it. (My kids know enough about me already, maybe too much).

Friends often ask me why I don’t write a children’s book. I’ve got one going. It’s Tucson-based, about local history that I want to learn, along with some social activist commentary that needs to be subtle. Focus on making it a lively story, my inner Sheila advises.

Once I flung myself into the blogging world, writing my own stuff has taken hold. It’s so fun!

If writers write I’m traveling down the right yellow brick road. And what must be said at this point: thank you, dear readers, for skipping along with me.


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Wild Bill won’t ride again

I have a new political theory. Maybe the beginning of all this extreme — often lying — criticism exemplified in last week’s election stems from President Bill Clinton’s impeachment on Dec. 19, 1998.

If right wing politicians could get away with that fiasco, perhaps they could get away with anything. They did it because they could. And doesn’t that, uh, freedom, make people do strange things? (I’m all for freedom, but not always for strange things).

I was at a small cocktail party in Northeast Harbor, Maine; it was the summer following Wild Bill’s impeachment and subsequent acquittal on Feb. 12, 1999. One of the state’s two sane Republican senators was standing nearby. We were both sipping white wine.

Sidling up to her, I said, “Thank you for being so civilized during President Clinton’s impeachment trial.”

“Oh, you have no idea what the right wing fanatics wanted to do to him. The public doesn’t even know the half of it,” she replied.

We seem to be hearing the other half these days. The blathering misinformation and xenophobia is hard to take: Obama’s a socialist, commie Muslim. Here in Arizona, the state Department of Education has issued a mandate that teachers with accents would not be allowed to teach in Arizona.

If people believe whatever they hear, politicians can sling any crap to a sound-bite hungry public.

Did Bill Clinton’s impeachment introduce the age of angry cable TV commentators? In part. At least it was a benchmark.

I’ll acknowledge that my own name-calling — loonies, crazies, wackos, nutcases — doesn’t initiate civil dialogue. I’ve been considering this more since Jon Stewart’s fabulous Rally to Restore Sanity.

Tonight MSNBC’s Rachel Maddow interviewed Stewart on her show. He’s a smart guy, and raised points that reminded me of how I taught high school social studies. Keep asking kids why, get them confused about their habitual thinking. That was my goal.

Cable TV highlights the conflict between red and blue states, said Stewart, instead of searching for common ground. “What happens in discourse is not precise, but what matters is the place you’re coming from.”

Then Stewart, who had a stomach flu, made me laugh. He called Maddow the “ginger root of interviewers” by not making him vomit for the first time in 24 hours.

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I was so much older then

OK, watch out — I’m turning on the bragonater, which is very different than a bullshit detector.

There’s nothing I enjoy more than someone practically keeling over when I divulge my age. Today an acquaintance was telling me about a free weekly musical event she thought I’d like. “You know,” she said, “a lot of people our age go .”

I humbly thanked her, but I’ll admit that I was waiting for the shock and awe (in a good way). “Oh we’re not the same age; I’m much older than you,” I said. She laughed, clearly doubting me.

“Well I’m 51,” she said. Ha! When I cheerfully announced that I’m 13 years older, she almost fell off her chair, but instead shrieked, “I’m floored!”

Last time I visited my friend Charlotte in NYC about five years ago, she opened the door and looked speechless. “Oh my god,” she finally blurted, “you’re the only person I know who looks younger every time I see you!”

Bragonater’s off now. My age is creeping up on me. For the first time in my life, I have a pudgy stomach, my shape is changing. I don’t have as much energy.

I question whether it’s worth trying to lose 15 lbs. — I weigh more than I did during either of my pregnancies — or whether I’m at the age when it’s better to suck every once of enjoyment out of life, including hazelnut gelatto, Basha’s killer chocolate ganache cake, sweet potato fries and a juicy burger.

After all, they say, life is short. But I’m also of the age when I don’t want life to get even shorter because of the rotund middle part of my body. I’ve always said that when I’m 80, I’ll sit around eating all the dark chocolate I want. Dark chocolate is good for me.

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Visual Entertainment

I’m a political junkie, always have been, but I have other stuff on my mind. As an aging baby boomer, what I most want is to be a menschette, see my east coast grown-up Brook and Ethan as often as possible, and hang out with Dan.

When we met four years ago, he opined that there were better TV shows available than movies, although Dan “likes movies as much as anybody.” I’m also a movie junkie and doubted his comparison to TV. In fact, I was adamant.

For as long as I can remember I’ve been opposed to too much  television, and was even interviewed for my friend Frankie’s “What to do after you turn off the TV.” I don’t recall what I said, but it probably had something to do with the horrors of passivity, depletion of neurotransmitters and so forth. You get it.

Now I have favorite shows, including “House,” “Lie To Me,” “Mad Men” and “Rubicon,” the new intelligence analyst thriller that just ended its first season (if I still bit my fingernails, I would be for the next few months, contemplating a second season).

So what good movies have you seen lately? I’d say “The Town” and “Social Network” were both top-notch. We watched Peter Weir’s “The Last Wave” (1977) at home the other night. Haunting and deep. I’m waiting for “Fair Game” about the Valerie Plame CIA debacle, and also want to see “Howl” about Alan Ginsberg’s epic poem/censorship.

Here’s the thing: My brother and I discuss movies by phone weekly, since we live some 3,000 miles apart. I take his discriminating short reviews seriously. I also check Rotten Tomatoes often. We don’t go to as many movies lately.

Before I knew Dan I was addicted to HBO’s “Six Feet Under.” I’d get a DVD with four or five episodes and watch them all till 2 a.m. I was alone then.

Brook introduced me to “Battlestar Gallactica” on one of my visits to NYC, in her Queens apartment. We drank red wine, glued to the screen for as long as we could stay awake.

There’s a lot of crap on TV. But there’s also some good stuff. How many years did it take for me to descend into a NYC subway instead of taking a cab? Until Brook directed our urban adventure, assuring me it would be okay.

We all need folks we trust to suggest that it’s okay to occasionally change our minds.

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A swath of blue

Rep. Gabrielle Giffords thanked her volunteers this morning after declaring victory in her congressional race — no, the delusional contest — with Tea Party incompetent Jesse Kelly.

“You all set an example for the entire country, you really did,” Gabby told the crowd. I so respect her. She spoke of the more than $20 million poured into Arizona to defeat her and Rep. Raul Grijalva, who also won his election after a close call with another Tea Partier.

“We saw a negative, angry electorate, and those signs with out-and-out lies,” Gabby said. Thankfully, that’s about as negative as she gets.

A swath of blue held out in Arizona, and I’m proud of it. I love living under the bluest sky in the nation.

But I do have some questions. After voting down Prop. 400 to raise the city sales tax by a half-cent, why would the Tucson City Council consider raising bus fares? People who can’t afford cars and the ecologically minded are the ones who most often ride buses. Why penalize them? I don’t get it.

MSNBC political talk show host Keith Olberman was suspended for making campaign contributions to Giffords and Grijalva, due to the policy at MSNBC’s more conservative parent network, NBC.

Everybody knows that Olberman’s a liberal. Give him a break. He’s also a U.S. citizen. At Fox “News” it’s OK to pander for right-wing dollars anytime.

I don’t get the illusion of objectivity required of journalists, history teachers, and government employees. Having worked in two of these professions, the best we can do is consciously strive for  self-awareness, inviting into the discussion all views in our attempt to achieve some balance.

I’m always hoping for more balance. After yoga class this morning, I chatted with another woman in the parking lot. Like me, she divorced after being married for some 20 years (folks may wonder, how do you get into these conversations after just meeting someone?).

She asked, who wouldn’t help a seriously ill ex-spouse after being married for 20 years? I’ll admit that I don’t feel overly gracious toward Dan’s ex, but I like to think I’d be willing to help if she needed it, and certainly try to understand if Dan assisted her. Hey, I’m far from perfect.

And who wouldn’t help any sick person reduce their suffering, if given the opportunity? Looks like Proposition 203 allowing the medicinal use of marijuana has faded in Arizona. I don’t get it. Prior to Tuesday’s election I heard someone say she had seen a photo of the “type of people” supporting Prop 203, so she wasn’t going to vote for it.

After the divisive 2004 presidential election, Ethan gave me a canvas bag with a U.S. map of “Purple America” on the front. Our country is even further from that melding, but at least here in Arizona, we have a swath of blue in a deluge of red.

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Downtown Friday night

Date night. Here’s what we did. Tucson Firefighters’ chili cook-off at Presidio Park in front of City Hall. A carnival atmosphere where you buy tickets to go around and get tiny cups of the hot stuff. None of it was very good and there were too many people, mostly young folks drinking beer. Another Tucson eating event to cross off my list.

There are more weekend festivals here than anywhere; great weather is a contributing factor. We’ve got Tucson Meet Yourself with ethnic entertainment and food — Dan calls it “Tucson Eat Yourself.” Culinary, blues and folk festival are all coming up.

Certainly my favorite is the Tucson Book Festival, which will take place on the University of Arizona campus March 12-13. More than 80,000 people attended in March, with the book fest only its second year.

Festivals, shmestivals. You can look those up on any Tucson website. Tonight we walked up and down Congress Street. I wanted to see all the buildings destined for hippening up. And we peeked into the new Downtown Kitchen + Cocktails, which looked very much like SoHo in New York City, doors open to the street.

We shared a beer at the Shanty, an old 4th Avenue bar that Dan says looks exactly the same as the last time he went there in 1988. I’ve heard that it’s the place to talk politics with the regulars sitting at the bars. Crossed it off my list.

Not much of a night out. Now I’m tired after a full day’s work, riding my bike both ways, a total of around 10 miles.

We saw new faces tonight, regular people trying to have fun at the end of the week. Nothing newsworthy, but somehow after all the drama of the past few days, refreshing.

Good night.

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Nemesis

I’m trying to avoid talking about the election, fully intending to discuss “Nemesis,” Philip Roth’s latest book. I loved it, but it does have political connotations.

Guess everything does. Rachel Maddow just reported that Sarah Palin is running for prez in 2012. Surprise, surprise.

Fortunately, we got rid of “I am not a witch” Christine O’Donnell, the pseudo t-brain candidate for Joe Biden’s former senate seat in Delaware. I recently read a comparison that cracked me up: The t-partiers make George Bush look like Bertrand Russell. The nightmare of Sarah Palin as president is even more incongruous.

Let’s look at the irrational promise spouted by many Republican representatives and senators-elect. Kentucky’s Rand Paul insists that the new guys will focus on bringing down the deficit, yet they want to continue Bush’s tax breaks for the wealthy, which will definitely not reduce the deficit.

There’s sure to be a kerfuffle (my word of the week), you think?

Worse than the arguing and nastiness spewed in the current political climate is the inordinate amount of fear that’s become part of the American psyche.

Even children’s picture books, often elegant displays of beauty that enhance imagination, are being touted to promote hatred.  Take “The Liberal Claus: Socialism on a Sleigh,” aimed to denigrate President Obama. Yeah, this is what children need during the holiday season.

Roth’s “Nemesis,” which takes place during the polio epidemic of 1944, tells the story of 23-year-old playground director Bucky Cantor, a real mensch. By playing summertime baseball he hopes to get the neighborhood boys through a scary time without catching the deadly disease.

Bucky is committed to goodness, to his girlfriend Marcia, and to making a contribution to Weequahic, his New Jersey community. But he has no control over the terror of polio.

Contemplating our horrible election night, I thought of Bucky’s plight. Was he doing right encouraging boys to continue playing baseball? Who knew if they were contracting polio from each other? Might it be better to quarantine themselves at home all summer?

I reread a passage from “Nemesis,” when Marcia’s father, kindly Dr. Steinberg, advises his future son-in-law: “This is America. The less fear the better. Fear unmans us. Fear degrades us. Fostering less fear — that’s your job and mine.”

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A few random election eve thoughts

Think hard. In Tucson, vote for all Democrats whose last names start with  G.

On tonight’s program, Keith Olberman aired a clip of Wacky Queen Sarah talking with a moderator on Fox News (I can’t bear to call their TV stand-ins reporters). “I’ll debate them if they man up,” Sarah said, as the woman practically doubled over and snickered. Nevada Senate candidate urged Sen. Harry Reid to “man up” at their recent debate.

What’s that about? If it’s supposed to be some allusion to a distorted feminism, I don’t like it. Does it mean to agree with these two warped women about what the important issues are? Or to just humiliate them for fun, part of the new mean girl strategy?

It took the state of Alabama until 2000 to finally erase their anti-miscegenation law. How long will it take the majority of Americans to realize that it’s not fair for the most downtrodden in our society to have unequal access to health care?

In France, there were mass protests when President Sarkozy moved to raise the legal retirement age from 60 to 62. We don’t want to be socialists like those Frenchies, many Americans say. What’s wrong with not slaving away till you drop dead? Tell me, please.

How about a federal program to promote creative consultants? I figure that the feds should subsidize people over 55 who have provocative or useful ideas, including artists, authors, engineers, plumbers or scientists. I have to admit, I don’t see this happening.

I commend the guy who snatched a Koran from someone who intended to burn it, and won one of Jon Stewart’s medals at Saturday’s Rally to Restore Sanity. Reminds me of the only time we saw someone stealing at Oz Books; a woman took a children’s bible and hid it under her jacket, fleeing down Main Street in Southwest Harbor. An Ozette went after her, but she denied that she was a crook. Where have we heard that one before? Now we have “I am not a witch” Christine O’Donnell. Will be glad when she’s gone.

Good luck to our beleaguered  country tomorrow. Dan is downloading the Rally to Restore Sanity. We’re ready for a few laughs.

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Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear

I felt better after watching the rally in D.C. with a few hundred other sane folks at Hotel Congress this morning. I missed the first hour because it took some finagling to attach my Goddard sign, with a “Turn Off Fox News” bumper sticker affixed to it, to my bike.

But my people were there, wearing “Yes We Can” Obama t-shirts and the like, standing in front of a giant flat-screen TV on the Hotel Congress patio.

In their inherent silliness, Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert, who hosted the “evil” part of the show, argued about the size of the crowd — was it 10 million or 6 billion? Apparently, the U.S. National Park Service estimated the crowd at 200,000.

At least six friends from Tucson attended the Rally to Restore Sanity in D.C. No doubt I would have gone if I still lived in Maine. I didn’t see anyone I knew, but through one of those odd coincidences, someone behind me received an e-mail from an acquaintance at the Washington Mall.

On our collective TV Colbert reported that the New York Times, CBS and NPR all denied coverage to the event, although I checked online at home and the NYT lead story and slide show were about the rally. I’m flummoxed (but if you’ve been reading my blog you know that’s one of my favorite words).

Comedy Central and C-span broadcast the entire three-hour show commercial free. Full disclosure: Hershey (Yay chocolate!), VW and LG were the three sponsors.

The rally itself was therapeutic. I feel much calmer knowing that I’m not alone in my political lunacy rants, feeling more secure that humor can help us all.

The “conflictinators” [good one, Jon!] on cable TV didn’t cause our problems, said Stewart, but they sure as hell make solving them so much harder.

Taking the media to task, Stewart showed clips from the right and left that obfuscate the issues, with both engaging in name calling and fear mongering. Geez, I’ve done it myself.

What I saw on the clips was mostly new to me: stories from Cable TV about the horror of flip-flops, flying ants or some such craziness, and other fearful admonitions. I was reminded of “1984.”

“If we amplify everything we hear nothing” was one of Stewart’s best serious lines.

The inability to distinguish all Muslims from terrorists helps maintain a constant fearful state, another way to divide us. Who likes Muslims and who hates them? Not so simple.

I loved Stewart’s analogy comparing Americans to cars trying to get through a tunnel. We don’t ram into other cars for displaying an Obama or NRA bumper sticker. Occasionally there’s a jerk who tries to wreak havoc, but nobody likes him.

“The truth is we work together every damn day to get things done,” said Stewart. “The only place we don’t is here [in Washington] or on cable TV.”

He continued, referring to the darkness or problems that are always part of life; “and sometimes the light at the end of the tunnel isn’t the promised land. Sometimes it’s just New Jersey.” The crowd roared.

Steward admitted that he wasn’t sure why he proposed the rally. “Sanity will always be and has always been in the eye of the beholder,” he said. “But your presence here today has restored mine.”

Right on, Jon.

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Pedal as fast as you can

Luckily, Dan and I are both word people. It’s as big a deal as having similar political beliefs. We make metaphorical jokes, enjoy silly puns and make up new words daily. It’s like breathing.

I’m so obsessive about correct word use that I call out people who use “importantly” instead of important. Not that big a crime, right?

Dan has become a recumbent bicycle aficionado — online he reads about bent bikes (as they’re called) for hours, watches people ride with cool musical accompaniment, cycles with various groups every weekend and has even driven back and forth to Fresno, California, in two days to purchase his dream bike. But that’s beside the point.

Dan told me last night that cyclists consistently write “peddling” when they mean pedaling. We were both, well, not exactly horrified, but I think a little dismayed. Are we just from another generation when people could spell? Or cared more about language?

Is there such a thing as word DNA? Not sure where I got mine  — maybe from old-fashioned teachers who taught spelling — but my kids are both exquisite writers who honor the perfect word. Brook and Ethan had a great-grandfather who wrote a history of Russia, a grandmother and grandfather who wrote textbooks, nutrition and chemistry, respectively.

Dan’s grandfather was a war correspondent and later sports editor for the Cleveland Plain Dealer, and his mom was supreme copy editor at the Arizona Daily Star for 30 years.

Now both in their 80s, Dan’s folks decipher crossword puzzles together for fun. And Dan’s son, Connor, has fallen in love with linguistics in college.

We care about words. Ethan’s favorite word as a little boy was dusk. I’ve always loved the word flummoxed. Brook, her boyfriend, Gianmarco, Ethan and I made a campfire on a Mount Desert Island beach last month after her birthday dinner.

What did we do that night, under the full moon starting her 34th year? Played Scrabble on an iPad until 2 a.m.

We’re word people. Dan and I have both repeated phrases over the years that make us smile, guffaw and bond us to our families.

May we peddle words as long as we both shall live.

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